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Usually, when I write an article here, I have a goal or a theme. I write to that goal and try to show what I’ve learned or where I’m stumped. I do this as a diary for myself and as a reference for others. It is a window into my life and Alice’s life for the rest of the world to see and to help me reflect.
Most of the time, I have no idea what I’m doing. One of my previous bosses (hey, Lou) complimented me on my ability to make good, solid decisions. I appreciate that, but at the same time it comes with a rigidity that is not always appropriate. So be it: I make mistakes. Who doesn’t?
We’re taking a vacation soon. Hooray! It’s been a while and I started planning this one in October. This is a rarity because usually I don’t take vacations until I’m solidly in a crisis and am beyond the point of needing to get away for a while. I think I had more time to think about it. We had some money saved and considered going on a Disney cruise. Mind you, this is a scary thing to be on a ship with Alice who has impulse control issues, but I thought it would be nice and the Disney™ Brand offers a lot for both kids. In looking at the overall cost, it looked like we’d be better off going to a resort instead with Park Hopper passes and spend the rest of the time at my dad’s place because kids and grandparents go together like assault and battery.
As we got closer to zero hour, E took the reins and prepared a PowerPoint presentation of all the major attractions that would be open in each of the parks and I took notes as the kids took it all in. She’s done a great job and has spent a lot of time on the phone making sure that all the i’s have been dotted. She’s good that way.
However, there’s a down side to this. Alice perseverates. This means that ever since the big reveal, Alice talks non-stop about the trip and says the same things again and again.
“We going to Disney and we pack tomorrow.”
“No, Alice, we’re not going for a month, remember?”
“We’re going to Disney?”
“Yes, Alice, but not for a month.”
“Yes, Alice, in a month. I understand that you’re excited. It’s OK to be excited, but it’s not OK to say the same things again and again.”
We put the travel dates on the calendar on the fridge. We pointed her to that. It helps. A little.
Today, the grand total of her talking about when we would be packing: 10 times up until dinner. Think about that for a minute. I see her for about an hour in the morning and 3 hours before dinner. That’s 10 times in 4 hours, or every 24 minutes we had to have the same conversation.
We try to give her different ways to express her excitement. It helps. A little. She has taken to letting out a really high pitched “squeeeee!”
I’m still not sure what to expect for this trip. I’m very happy because this is the first time that we’ve gone to the park when we didn’t need a stroller nor did we need a sticker that says “stroller equivalent to a wheelchair”.
which is fantastic. However, both kids are in totally different places in terms of interests, motivation, and motion.
I expect for the most part to be doing a lot of walking, a lot of standing, and a lot of intervention between the kids.